A new friend in Michigan

I have come to the realization that I like to take my clothes off. For

someone with so many body issues I guess it's kinda weird. But it

keeps happening, and I don’t really stop it. I  should though. Or

is it normal to do that?  I don't even know. I take them off pretty

quickly too...

As I was celibate for most of August, bc no men to be found, I was

shocked to meet someone cool THE SATURDAY BEFORE I LEFT!

Name: G

Age: 38

Met:

I was in downtown Detroit with my dad, his gf, his two friends and

their wives. That's how I roll. My sister texted me that she has a guy

for me to meet and to come see her. Well, I didn't have a car so that

was not possible.  Sister was with her bestie who knew G.  I love this

girl and checked to make sure she was not interested before I got any

further.  Sister assured me he was normal, and funny. I checked out

his fb and he looked 'aight so I gave her the go ahead.  He texted me

not long after. He was funny. Asked me to meet up over the weekend. We

set a coffee date the next day. 

Date 1: coffee, in Royal Oak.

 I drove to meet him bc there was a lot going on in RO that weekend

and it is an all around cooler place to meet than near me. There

wasn't even a discussion about this, bc it is a fact.

He was a gentleman before I even met him. I was driving there and he

called me to say he forgot about the parking situation, it might be

hard to find a spot. I had already secured a spot at my sister’s house

so I was set. But it was so nice of him to think about that.

I walked from her place. It took longer than I thought bc the maps app

makes things look waaaay closer than they really are. He was sitting

outside with what he described to me as "a long skateboard". I of

course knew it was a longboard (see date 1 with RC, that loser). G was

impressed.

G is tall, 6'3", has a good job, owns a house which he lives in,

alone, owns a nice tv, a car, sounds pretty good, right?  He has a bit

of baggage too though, far from perfect.

Coffee convo was great right away. He is funny, interesting, sarcastic

(very important for me). He even paid for my coffee. We were having a

good time. He asked if I was hungry, duh, yes, always. So we went to

the festival going on a block away.  He bought my ticket! I am easily

impressed.

We walked around and talked. He is divorced too.  We talked about what

it was like to get and be divorced, and dating. It was a very open and

honest conversation and I loved it. We had pulled pork sandwiches,

yum, he paid. Then smoothies (dairy free, we had already covered that

topic), he paid, again!  I didn't even need a wallet!  Anyways, all

was going swell. We walked around and talked a ton, I mean seriously

had a great time.  We walked back to his house. I attempted to go on

the longboard. I failed.

His house is really nice.  We sat and talked for a while, about

everything, including: Ryan Gosling, G's poor taste in music, his

daughter, yep (7 years old), our marriages, our ex's, travel, family,

food, Michigan.  

Then we made out.  After doing that for a while he said he wasn't sure

what to do next. He could (and wanted to)  invite me upstairs, but he

wasn’t that type of guy, I said I am trying not to be that type of girl

(lie).  He said I should come back to RO later to meet up. There was a

free concert at the festival. I wasn't sure how genuine his invite

was, but I had nothing else going on so I said I probably would. He

drove me back to my car bc it looked like a long walk when we looked

up how I could get back. I went home. He texted me that I should come

meet him later that night. That meant another shower, clean clothing.  Still, worth it.

I was going.

Date 2: new clothes= new date.

I met him near the concert, he had left bc it was way too crowded. We

went to a bar for a drink.  Sat there and after one drink decided it

was too loud so we left and went to another bar. He is still paying

for all of this btw. At second bar some peeps he knew starting coming

in and it might have been a scene. We left. 
We walked around and talked a bit. I told him about the young guys I

went on dates with, he told me about the girls he's dated. It was

really fun to talk about this with him. We walked back to his place.

He put on music. I asked if it was seduction music. And did he have

mood lighting too. He had dimmers, close enough.

Oh. We also talked about blogs and his ex has one, as does her

boyfriend. I don't think he's a fan of them. So that's good news for

me.

We started making out again. I stopped him from taking my pants off. I

decided I should not have sex again so quickly or easily.  He

respected that. During all of this we continued to talk about making

out with other people and that getting a disease was really scary. He

was tested, twice. I think he gets around.  I said that herpes was my

biggest fear, his is AIDS. I told him that's ridiculous, herpes is

much more prevalent and that he needs to be concerned about it. AIDS

is not on my radar, maybe it should be?

My pants did eventually come off.  However, we did not have sex (with

our privates).

After... I said I was going to sleep at my own house. He asked if I

was hungry, maybe pizza? I reiterated that yes, I am always hungry. It

is a constant in my life.  He drove us to get pizza, I ordered mine

with no cheese and it was delish. Yes, he paid!  While at the pizzeria

a bunch of skanky looking girls came in.  G said those types of girls

never talk to him. I said that if he was trying to avoid disease, then

it's probably a good thing because they most likely all had herpes. He

then said, "there's this one Jewish girl who dresses like that". I

knew exactly who he meant too. 

After pizza he drove me back to my car. I certainly did not predict my

day going that way when I woke up. What a surprise. The next day I did

hear from him. He asked me to come hang out again (um, booty call?). I

totally would have but it was my last night and I had to pack.  He

again complimented me on my awesomeness (interpret that however you'd

like).

I know G is not looking for anything serious and I am not really

either, at least not in MI, not yet. So it was perfect. I have someone

to hang out with while I am home and it's a good time. It's too bad we

didn't meet earlier in the month. But who knows how it would have

gone.  I will stay in touch with this one. It turns out some people DO

casually date in MI.  Yes!